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How to Recognize Suicidal Behavior

It is a heavy topic to talk about—suicide, but one that is very important to look into and address. Thoughts on suicide, or showing suicidal behavior isn’t indicative to any age, gender, race or social status.  The Elderly, adults and children alike can be affected by mental health issues or the depression and anxiety that could lead to suicidal thoughts and suicidal behavior.

Many can feel like suicide is the only way out of the rut that they’re in and it sometimes manifests in words and actions and behaviors beforehand that can alert family members and friends in that there’s something wrong.  It’s important, then, to know what to watch out for and, even more, know what to do if a friend or loved one is at risk of suicide.

Sadly, I think most of us know someone, either directly or indirectly, who has taken their life in the act of suicide. My daughter has lost several friends in this way and it is heartbreaking. It is heartbreaking when I see parents and friends and loved ones of someone posting about their loss of a loved one online.

This is something that there must be more discussion about.

So, how do we recognize suicidal behavior?

1)     A general change in disposition

One of the most subtle but most common signs to notice is that there is a change in the routines and general behavior of your loved one.  From being very sociable and peppy, they may start to become more distant and aloof and reserved.  Schedules and activities that may have been part of their routine may not be as important and they would opt to miss out on more and more activities.

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The normally happy disposition they used to have is replaced by sadness and wanting to be more and more isolated from everyone and everything that used to matter. This is something that could happen gradually, so it’s important to really look into it once this kind of behavior is noticed.

For some too, there is a noticeable change in sleep patterns.  Suicidal behavior could manifest itself as sleeping more or sleeping much less or not sleeping at all.

2)      Aggression and Recklessness

Many people notice that one of the big changes in their loved ones is that they are angrier and have more pent up negativity and aggression for situations that they would normally not react as negatively to.  They may not care about the dangers of the actions and become more reckless and aggressive towards situations and others in their interactions.

For teens and adults, reckless behavior and aggression could also manifest in substance use and abuse—may it be medication, drugs or alcohol. Drowning out their problems or wanting to “escape” by means of these substances is one big red flag that should alert you about your loved one.

3)     Being more interested in topics of death and dying

You may notice that your loved one talks more and more about death and dying. That slowly they become consumed with learning about death and it is becoming one of the central topics they talk about. Talk about leaving possessions behind or making plans to tie up loose ends can also be suspicious behavior that can lead to suicide.

The odd call or message from your loved one saying goodbye or messages alluding to that nature should be red flags and warnings signs that there is something wrong.  This kind of behavior, especially, is the kind that should not be taken lightly.

I, myself, have received a ‘goodbye’ message from someone I knew and for a moment, I considered it to be simply an attempt to get attention. I think a lot of us feel that way, even if we don’t admit it, when people talk about suicide.

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But, if you consider that if that person IS serious, and we don’t do anything about it, what might happen… the choice is pretty clear on what we should do.

I called 911. And I told them what was happening so they could do a wellness check on the person, which resulted in a few days stay in the hospital under observation.

Again, these behaviors may not come all at once and may not be very evident in the beginning.  This is why it is important to be attuned to your loved ones and know what to do should you notice anything different or amiss.

Observing and being aware of possible suicidal behavior is one thing, but it is another thing altogether to know what to do once you notice that your loved one may be at risk for suicide.  So, what is there to do?

The most important thing to do is to make your loved one know that you are there for them without judgement and without condition.

Ask questions and try to coax them to talk about their feelings and what is bothering them.  Let them know that you care and that you are there for them.

The goal is to keep your loved one safe. Try to create a safe place for them by removing potentially lethal objects around them.  Be alert and attuned to your loved one and always provide companionship, comfort, and support.

September 8-14, 2019 is National Suicide Prevention Week.

This week, have a #RealConvo about mental health! Whether that means active listening, talking through it, or just being with someone. All are equally important.

It’s time to shift the culture and have an open and honest conversation about #mentalhealth. Have you had a #RealConvo today?

If you’re unsure of how to reach out to a friend that’s struggling, here are some quick pointers you can use for having a #RealConvo:  https://afsp.org/how-to-start-and-continue-a-conversation-about-mental-health-a-realconvo-guide-from-afsp

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